How to Heal Painful Emotions (Worry, Anxiety, Sadness, Guilt, etc.)
One of the biggest steps to healing is self-expression. In this article, I share some of my experience with suppressing emotions and the tools that I have learned to bring them to the surface and heal them.
You are not alone. In your life, you may find it difficult to express your emotions. This has been something I have struggled with, but I learned that we are part of this human experience, to face the world around us, the good and the bad. We are meant to see the world and have our life experiences. Most of all, we are meant to feel them.
We are here to feel pain, sorrow, guilt and anger; and we are also meant to feel freedom, joy, and love.
We all experience these and so much more on a daily basis. But how often do we express how we feel? How often do we share our experience with others? So often we hold everything inside and don’t even know that our friends and family feel, just like we do.
This has been one of my biggest struggles personally. Feeling alone as a child from experiences of bullying and being taught to hold emotion in, led me to teenage years where I would hold everything in. Then, every once in awhile things would build and spill over. I would be in hysterics, often I wouldn’t even know what was upsetting me anymore.
In fact, according to the National Institute of Mental Health anxiety affects over 18% of people in the US.
One of the biggest reasons we have anxiety and panic attacks is unexpressed emotions.
Healing Your Emotions:
- It’s Okay, Accept your emotions.
I want you to know that it is okay for you to feel things like sadness, anger, and guilt. It is healthy to feel those things and learning to feel them helps us to express them. To start healing accept your emotions.
- Feel it fully.
If you have been suppressing emotion, I invite you to take some time for yourself and feel it fully. Cry, scream, do what you need to do to bring this emotion up to the surface to heal.
- How is your body reacting?
Pay attention to how your body is reacting. Does your throat feel constricted? Does your heart start to race? Do parts of your body ache or feel painful? This is where your body is storing the emotion. Breathe through it and imagine the pain leaving and decreasing with each breath.
- Why do you feel this way?
Take some time and ask yourself, “Why do I feel this way?” Keep asking why and breaking it down until you get to the baseline of the problem. (Often times this stems from beliefs we have established during our lifetime.)
- Express it.
Now that you have done some self-discovery you can express it in a calm, clear manner.
Forms of Expression:
- Expressing your feelings to others.
When talking to others, always use, “I feel…” statements.
Just be, be with yourself, with your emotion, allow it to flow through and out of you. It may take some time, so be patient. You will reach a point where peace takes over.
Note: If you have a higher power, guides, or angels, call them in and ask them to help you. Archangel Michael and Archangel Raphael are very good helpers with this. You can say, “Archangel Michael and Archangel Raphael (or any other higher power or guides you connect with) I ask that you come forth and help me to express and heal this. Take my (pain or emotion) and transform it into love.” And just notice what happens.
Journal your feelings out. (This is especially good for breaking down your emotions using the why questioning.) You can also write a letter to someone to express your feelings to them that way, you can choose whether to give it to them or burn it and let it go.
Exercise releases endorphins and gets your energy moving.
- Spend time in nature.
Nature helps us to get in touch with what is within.
Please share your experience below and let me know if this helped you.
Love and light be with you.